Three Golden Social Rules Help New Workers

A person who is never willing to suffer losses and is unwilling to give in will not be happy even if he really gains a lot of benefits. Because. A selfish person is like sitting on the top of a stationary seesaw. Although he has maintained his dominant position, the whole interpersonal interaction has lost its due fun, which is a pity for himself or the other party. The principle of seesaw reciprocity is indispensable when we get along with colleagues Art.

　　 1. Do not do to others what you do not want;

To answer this question, we should find out work In the process, what do you not want, that is, what people do not want? Around this question, we have done an extensive survey: What is the last thing you want in your work? The answer in turn is: failure, blame, criticism... I believe the following two phenomena are familiar to most people.

First, the company held a meeting and assigned a difficult task, such as promoting a new project without any market foundation. When it is necessary to determine the person in charge, people often find various excuses to prove that they do not have the time or energy to undertake this task, and recommend others to take charge of this project.

Second, after the problem occurred, at the problem analysis meeting, everyone would always complain about each other and shirk responsibility, as if the problem had nothing to do with themselves.

Why do these two phenomena occur? The reason is simple: no one wants to fail, nor to be blamed and criticized. Responsible for a difficult project, the possibility of failure will be great, so everyone hopes to push the task to others; Similarly, if you admit that the problem is caused by your own mistakes, you must face the blame and criticism of your boss. No matter failure, blame and criticism are what everyone does not want, so there is a situation of "giving to others what they do not want".

　　 2. Give to others what you want;

In all aspects of social life speak How to improve your speaking skills, how to achieve your desired purpose through speaking, how to make yourself say the right words in different occasions, how to make yourself deal with different people well, etc., have become more and more issues for contemporary people to consider. The level of speaking ability can definitely determine the size and speed of a person's achievements. This book quotes a large number of vivid examples from different aspects, and brilliantly discusses the method of speaking properly, so as to help you master the skills of speaking and achieve success as soon as possible.

　　 praise The first condition for others is to have a sincere mind and a serious attitude. Words can reflect a person's psychology, so it is easy for the other party to find out and feel unhappy if they speak carelessly or carelessly. Secondly, when praising others, do not say anything that is far from the truth. For example, when you see a child with a runny nose and a dull expression, you say to his mother: "Your child looks very smart Ming! " How will the other party feel?

Praise should not only conform to the immediate reality, but also be forward-looking and prescient. Only in this way can you raise the level of your praise and make your praise stand the test of time. Some things are relatively stable, such as people's appearance, character, habits, etc., which is easier to praise; But some things are unstable, such as people's behavior, achievements, thoughts, attitudes, etc. If you take a long-term view, you should be cautious when praising.

　　 3. Give to people what they want;

We all know that employees should be treated kindly, because the tasks of the organization are ultimately completed by them, and they are your comrades in arms all the time. You should really think of them, never occasionally greet them and let them know that you care about them. You should participate in the activities of employees, understand their difficulties, communicate with employees in time, and listen to their opinions carefully. In particular, we should pay more attention to the constructive opinions of employees and be careful Listen. If it is a good idea and can be implemented, no matter how insignificant the employee's suggestions are, they should also be adopted. Employees will feel elated because their opinions have been adopted. Even if the employee has ever been blamed by you for other things, he will pay more attention and respect to you.

You also need to create a good working environment for employees to know that you are considerate of them everywhere. You should also identify with the performance of employees, express appreciation to employees, and maintain a kind expression. A leader who always smiles will want to talk with him. Even if you don't ask for anything, your employees will provide information on their own initiative. The influence of your body language, such as posture and attitude, cannot be ignored. If you often smile naturally, You will also feel comfortable physically and mentally.

"The gentleman asks for himself, and the villain asks for others." The gentleman is strict with himself, and the villain is strict with others. The Chinese tradition advocates the forgiving spirit of "leniency leads to public success, ambition comes from being able to lower people, and tolerance is a great tool".

Confucius gave five external behaviors of benevolent people: "courtesy, leniency, trust, sensitivity, and benefit". Taking "leniency" as one of the five aspects of "benevolence" is of great help to our business operation.

Some entrepreneurs have a big problem in accommodating people. They don't trust anyone. The employees below are doing mechanical actions under their own command, and they also want you to report them from time to time. Everything shows that the ideological trend of doing everything should be reported to him. They will always ask you why I don't know. Why didn't you report your idea to me? In the end, everything without his consent is wrong Implemented rigidly. It will dampen the enthusiasm of others to beat others blindly and not allow others to have a little thought space.

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