Be The Coolest Woman In The Office.

1. if you are angry, admit it.

When women are mad, they usually cry or become very depressed.

Experts point out that this may be a kind of escape and pfer, and it will not help the situation.

If you are angry, admit it.

You must face the cause of your anger.

If you are asking for a cloud or fog, you will never get rid of the unhappiness that you do not want to admit. You may ask yourself, "am I angry for what, but are you afraid to face it?"

Escaping your true feelings will not make it disappear, just let it change in your heart.

Truth, anger at work is not a bad thing.

At least it shows that something is wrong.

Your instinctive reaction is to remind you that it may help you to have a clearer understanding of your work.

2. remember, their arguments may not be aimed at you.

Women always tend to regard others' criticism or unfriendly expression as feedback on their own values, so that they often doubt themselves and think they are the core of contradiction, which is not always the truth.

Su Li, 26 years old, got the diploma of master of economics from famous university half a year ago, and came to this British consulting company as a senior analyst.

Looking back at the beginning, Su Li said, "at the beginning, the days were hard.

I obviously feel isolated.

Almost no one offered to greet me, and when I talked to them, they were either aloof or aloof.

I even had the idea of resigning.

Su Li did not go.

Smart, after calmly analyzing, saw the situation clearly.

Although the company's time is not long, she has learned that the company has undergone a comprehensive personnel change when hiring her.

Perhaps because of her high academic qualifications, her salary is above many of the older employees.

"I realized that my colleagues were not friendly to me because of their dissatisfaction with personnel changes and their fear of new threats.

All this is not intended to be aimed at me, nor is it my problem.

If I want to understand this level, I will no longer be unhappy about the attitude of my colleagues.

Su Li's analysis is not wrong, because colleagues are not aimed at her, as time goes on, the attitude of colleagues gradually changed.

3. refuse to be strict.

Maybe you want to be perfect, but don't be so depressed by being imperfected and demanding yourself or others.

Zi Wen, 37, is a freelance writer with a reputation.

Although it is a freelance profession, Zi Wen is very demanding and even harsh at work.

Once she sent a copy of the manuscript, she found that there was a wrong character in it.

Zi Wen said, "this wrongly written word makes me feel sleepless for a week.

I felt very embarrassed at the thought of it, and I was very angry with myself.

In fact, the problem of Zi Wen is that she simply can not accept mistakes in her work.

Such an example is not uncommon.

Some people will turn the pursuit of perfection into a demanding one.

This often does more harm than good, because keeping a good mood at work is very important.

If you are not sure whether you have made a big mistake or made a small mistake, you can ask your colleagues to judge objectively.

4. learn to look at colors.

Perhaps these four words do not sound very pleasant, but learning how to "look at colors" in the office will definitely benefit you.

Never imagine the boss sitting in that office as a saint who does not eat people, and infer how he should "expect". He expects him to be objective and impartial at any time, and to move the tiger beard deeply.

For example, if your boss is particularly irritable in the afternoon, try to ask him to work in the morning, and keep him away after lunch.

5., cool down and keep cool.

Are you losing control?

Wait a moment!

Do not let this vent?

Now, hold your breath, count from 1 to 10, and then take a few deep breaths.

If you still feel anger is hard to suppress, you'd better leave it first and go and pour yourself a glass of ice water.

Maybe it can't completely extinguish your heart, or at least let you cool down.

After the first moment, in general, you can look at problems calmly, as long as you are willing.

At this point, you can ask yourself, "what do I want to get in this situation?"

Maybe you want an apology from the other person. Maybe you will find that your anger is coming so fast because you want to vent your emotions. Anyway, the answer to the question can lead you to act calmly and wisely, so as to avoid the so-called reckless action.

Always remind yourself that the key is to solve the problem instead of introducing a lip fight to make things worse.