How To Resolve Jealousy In The Workplace

When you have the same status and ability as your colleagues, if one of them gets approval, promotion, salary increase or opportunity to learn, will you have jealousy? After all, honors or rewards are limited, giving others the chance to lose their opportunities.

Nowadays, many people in the workplace are in a state of mind who is jealous, jealous, and hated when compared with their own good people. Then they start complaining, complaining about the objective environment, complaining others and damaging their mindset.

At the same time, some people turn this jealousy into a driving force, motivate themselves to make continuous efforts, and ultimately surpass those who are jealous.

Do you work hard in the workplace, the former or the latter? When you encounter some problems in the workplace, or someone's skilled working skills and excellent ability make you feel jealous and jealous, what do you do?

In psychological experts, jealousy is actually a normal emotional experience.

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Who has not experienced jealousy? What is hidden behind jealousy, except for frustration and anger, which is hard to say? Experts say that studies have found that jealousy is closely related to psychological gap, and the reasons can be divided into external factors and internal factors.

External factors include organizational justice, namely distributive justice.

In distribution, when there is a big gap between reality and ideal, it will inevitably lead to comparisons, and the inner will produce serious imbalance experience and resentment towards others, resulting in interpersonal tension.

In addition, it is also closely related to leadership fairness.

Distributive justice is the foundation. Leadership fairness is the driving force. The encouragement and support of leaders give employees hope, otherwise, they will lead to vicious competition and jealousy will continue to spread.

Besides, the root cause of jealousy is closely related to personality.

Generally speaking, people with low self-esteem tend to be more jealous and those with high self-esteem are generally less jealous.

What kind of people are more likely to produce jealousy?

Inferiority complex: self abased people often feel different from others, and have never been able to bring their potentials into full play.

Once a colleague who is equal to his level is successful, it is easy to be jealous.

Character anxiety: this part of people will not only worry too much about the future, but also pay too much attention to their immediate interests.

Weak self consciousness: because of lack of adequate understanding of oneself, and less understanding of their strengths and weaknesses, it is easy to produce blind jealousy.

Lack of surrounding environment

And sense of security: when there is no trust relationship with colleagues, it is easy to generate jealousy in front of interests.

How to eliminate jealousy in the workplace?

Overcome your jealousy

1, improve moral cultivation and connotation.

Broaden your mind, see differences between individuals, and learn to accept, respect and appreciate this personality difference.

A hundred flowers in the garden can attract more visitors to visit. If there is only one flower, it will make the garden pale.

At the same time, good things should not be taken for granted. Instead, they should learn to think differently and deprive others of their needs.

2. Look for the gap.

Where a person is jealous means his inferiority complex, which means where his self-esteem is, which means what he is likely to pursue.

Therefore, when the envy, jealousy and hatred of others are sprouting, they should analyze their situation objectively and calmly, seriously reflect on the advantages of others, what the reasons for this advantage are, what they need to do to achieve that level, pay attention to enriching their knowledge and improving their own abilities, rather than pulling others down due to psychological imbalance.

3, vent your emotions in a proper way.

We should be good at seeing our own strengths and discovering our potential. First we should learn to respect ourselves, love ourselves and accept ourselves.

Through a proper way to vent bad emotions, such as family members and trusted friends to confide, tell trouble, through sports to eliminate negative emotions.

Being others

How to do it?

1, objective analysis and calm treatment.

For the workplace envy, jealousy, hate, do not rush to respond and express their feelings of discontent.

Calm down and think about other people's "jealousy, jealousy" in their own useful information.

If there are some problems in itself, accept it with heart and try to adjust itself; if it is a nonsense, it does not need to be ignored.

2, adjust cognition and enhance self-confidence.

Instead of complaining and blaming people behind your jealousy and jealousy, you should thank them for adjusting their cognition, and don't feel that you have suffered losses and suffered great grievances. So you can swallow it, but regard this situation as a kind of experience and an opportunity conducive to your growth.

Some people "envy, envy and hate" show that your "realm" is higher than him.

If we respond to the words "envy, jealousy, hate", it is just in line with their wish to pull you from high to the same level as them.

Therefore, we need to believe in ourselves and constantly improve self-confidence and tolerance.

3, enrich knowledge and grow talents.

The most important thing in the workplace is to be good at knowing what kind of person you want to be and what kind of goals you want to achieve.

Continue to learn, enrich their own knowledge system, enrich their connotation, improve their accomplishment, and constantly improve themselves.

To cultivate an open-minded attitude towards life and broaden your mind, when you reach a new height, other people's envy, jealousy and hatred will be pformed into "admiration, admiration and love".

4, establish emotional relationships, use love to resolve jealousy.

In the workplace, we should pay more attention to communicating with our colleagues and be sincere. We should use benevolence and love to dissolve "envy, jealousy and hatred".

Mutual understanding, mutual help, mutual support and cooperation will help to dissolve the jealousy of others.