Why Is The Boss Willing To Play The Trick?

Some people habitually like to analyze others or find out other people's shortcomings, so as to manifest their brilliant insights (not based on professional needs, but rather unconsciously everyday habits). In fact, this is also derived from deep self doubt or low value sense - a form of "self hatred". Therefore, a subtle understanding of what is "self love" is the key to transforming grievances. - Hu Yinmeng

There seem to be many people who are confident, but if you look closely, you will find that too many people's self-confidence seems to be based on others' inferiority.

A friend of mine went to work in a private enterprise after graduating from University, and she went with more than 10 university graduates. It was in 1995 that the local private enterprises first recruited university graduates on a large scale, so they became hot news locally, and were frequently reported by newspapers, radio and TV stations.

She became the boss's secretary. After a few months' work, one day, two of them were in the office. She was busy working as secretary.

"I earn more every day than you do every year."

This year, my friend happened to talk to me about it. She was still wondering why the boss said this to her at the time.

I asked her, "what did you feel then?"

She thought for a while and replied, "a little bit of inferiority, but not strong."

I explained, "he makes you feel inferior because he feels inferior."

Listen to my explanation, she remembers thoughtfully. Boss There are indeed some problems. For example, he often arranges some difficult tasks for college students, which is called "reuse you", but once you do not fulfill his tasks according to his requirements, he will satirize, "look, you are still a college student, not as uneducated as I am." He often does this, which makes her feel that the strong boss seems to be a bit out of order.

However, it was just a vague feeling that she did not explicitly think that the boss was very inferiority 。 Now, by reminding me, she thinks he is really very self abased.

"How can you make such a judgement so quickly?" she asked me.

I replied, Modern psychology Learning to find out what kind of external relationship a person wants to establish with you means that he has an internal relationship pattern. When the boss says, "I earn more than a year a day", he obviously wants to establish such a personal relationship with you. And what he did was to show that he had an internal relationship first, "I can't do it."

To be more exact, the boss's internal relationship pattern is "internal parents" and "inner child".

If a confident person always chooses your thorn intentionally or unintentionally, and makes you feel unworthy of inferiority in front of him, you can infer that this seemingly confident person has the internal relationship pattern of "I can't do you."