Listening To Others Is Also An Art.

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In a sense, people who are popular with people in the social circle love everyone who talks with him, not just because he is talkative, but because he will listen.

However, many people tend to influence others with their own opinions, opinions and feelings, or are afraid of not being good at speaking. They often work hard on their conversational skills and abilities, but ignore the importance of listening to and understanding the meaning of each other's conversation.

In verbal communication, listening attentively to others' conversation is respectful to the speaker, so the other will regard you as a friend.

It can be said that telling is human nature, and listening is a kind of accomplishment and virtue. It is also a key to success in conversation.

Listening can be divided into two types: extensive listening and listening.

Extensive listening is widely heard. No matter what people speak in front of us, they deserve serious listening, listening and accumulating. They will understand the situation and increase their knowledge and talents. Therefore, we should listen to the opinions and voices of the masses.

Listening is respectfully and wholeheartedly listening to receive.

This listening process has a clear purpose and orientation, and requires continuous information, judgement and feedback.

There are three ways of listening: one is to listen carelessly.

It's the easiest way to hurt people by listening to people in this way.

The two is to listen critically.

This kind of obedient way keeps people on the alert.

Three, listen to empathy.

That is to say, from the angle of the other side, it changes with the change of the speaker's emotion and mentality.

People who take this kind of obedient approach concentrate and concentrate, as if they are totally immersed in the conversation.

This way reflects the spirit of self respect and respect for others and is the basic way to win respect from the other side.

To succeed in conversation, you have to listen to empathy.

Like listening to other people's conversations, they also have their skills and art.

So, what questions should we pay attention to when we listen to people's talk? First, we need to be modest.

The best listeners are those who are good at asking others for advice.

They can use every opportunity to enrich themselves, and to give others a good impression of being polite.

In order to show the listener's concern, understanding and attention to the content of the other's talk, he can ask questions in time, and put forward one or two questions that the other side is good at and not familiar with, and ask the other party to explain or answer more clearly, which will often encourage the speaker.

However, asking people for advice is not a matter of avoiding reality and forcing others to do anything.

Second, be patient.

Sometimes a common topic knows a lot, but the other side is very strong. Because of respect for each other, we should be patient and try to get the other person to finish talking. Do not interrupt or interrupt. Do not oppose or contradict each other.

If you really need to interrupt or interrupt a conversation, you should first ask the other person's permission and say it in a deliberate tone: "please wait a moment, let me interrupt", "allow me to interrupt" or "can I ask you a question?" so that we can change the topic and not be rude.

Third, concentrate.

When listening to a conversation, you should concentrate on the conversation with your heart.

If you don't understand each other's conversation at a time, try to explain the meaning of the other's conversation.

This will not only make your mind clearer, but also make the other person feel that you are very attentive and very speculative.

Fourth, be careful.

Listening to people needs to be sensitive enough.

Listen carefully to the inner meaning and the main points of view of the other person's speech. Don't think too much about the conversation skills and language level of the other side. Do not dilute the side issues.

Fifth, we should cooperate with each other.

When the other person is humorous, the response laughter adds to the speaker's interest; when the speaker is nervous, the listener holds his breath and strengthens the atmosphere; when it comes to the highlight, it can be applauded.

Of course, the listener's facial expression should be coordinated with the speaker's facial expression and tone.

Listeners should also make use of the gap between them to compare the views of the speaker with their own views, to recall the speaker's viewpoint and intention, and to anticipate the views and reasons that he will elaborate.

In short, as a "speaking party", we should be considerate; as a "listening party", we should not forget the respect of others.