Communicating Symptoms: Seeing People Disagreeable

This year, Mr. Luo, 43 years old, has been troubled by interpersonal problems. He always finds that many people around him can not accept him. He is always trying to get along with him.

Another time, a colleague went to Mr. Luo's office after lunch and sat on the corner of his desk and another.

Mr. Luo not only has such a hostile mentality towards his colleagues in the unit, but also outside.

Many people who know Mr. Luo's character are unwilling to associate with him.

This aggravated his suspicion of others.

In the increasingly bad interpersonal relationship, Mr. Luo's family helped him find a psychiatrist.

Mr. Luo's bad interpersonal relationship is caused by his antagonistic psychology, and his hostile psychology is caused by his distrust of people, which is caused by a lack of basic sense of security.

Therefore, Mr. Luo must start with establishing a basic sense of trust and a sense of security for people.

Psychologists tell Mr. Luo that distrust and lack of interpersonal communication are related to others. Bad communication can cause psychological alienation between people and cause misunderstanding of others and misunderstanding of others.

Therefore, to establish a good relationship with others, we should start with promoting communication.

With good communication, people will know more about their true attitude and become more secure.

The elimination of hostility can also start with "visual conversion therapy".

The so-called "visual conversion therapy" means changing the point of view to improve the mood and ideas.

For example, Mr. Luo now sees more of the shortcomings of others and the negative side of others' behaviors. The psychiatrist suggests that he constantly remind himself that he should only focus on the positive elements of others' actions and not pay attention to the negative elements.

Because many negative emotions are not caused by facts themselves, but by the way and angle we look at them.

After undergoing psychological counseling, Mr. Luo changed very obviously. After a period of hard work, his hostility to others was greatly reduced, and the relationship with people around him gradually returned to normal.

In fact, anyone should understand that others will always be your mirror. If you smile at others, others will smile back to you. If you cast hostile eyes on others, you will see others are also hostile to you.