Thirty Year Old Woman, Family Or Career?

Min (a pseudonym) is the kind of woman who will give a good impression at first sight.

The smile was gentle, and it reminded her of her profession, teacher.

I could even imagine her wearing a suit on the stage, like Jing Yidan, the CCTV's elder sister, who gently sends out wisdom and seems to be always so decent.

The afternoon sun was very warm, and Shi Min complained to me about her distress in the sunshine of the studio: after graduating from University, she stayed at her alma mater as a teacher. Besides teaching after class, she was also responsible for the training of the school training department.

In the past six years, she has set up her own family and plans to have a baby with her lover this year.

At this time, an opportunity arises: a headhunting company looks for her, and they look at her professional accumulation, which gives her the opportunity to enter a medium-sized foreign company.

The salary is excellent.

However, at least two years ago, she must devote herself to her work, and the plan to give birth to children must be postponed.

The more than 30 year old child has missed the best time to give birth.

Shi Min said: in fact, my desire for money is not very strong.

But you know, the house plus the children coming soon will make this highly paid job attractive.

My view: children coming soon make Shi Min eager for money, but it also disrupts the pace of Shi Min's career development.

Shi Min's current job cannot provide high salaries, but it does not affect the birth of children, and can maintain a balance between family and career.

Shi Min also clearly pointed out that she needed the "motivation" of high salaries, from houses and children.

New jobs can provide financial satisfaction, but there must be rest time.

In the stage of giving birth to children, rest and economic support are two indispensable foundations.

The direct cost of choosing a new job is to postpone the plan for having children.

Age does not allow her to postpone this.

At this point, the new choice of work means a departure from the original goal.

Shi Min asked: but career development is also important to me.

This is really a good opportunity! For a woman, the choice between family and career will always appear before you.

Is it necessary for a woman to give up her career as a family?

In my opinion, family is the foundation of career development.

At different times, the emphasis will be different.

The important thing is how to maintain the balance between the two.

What Shi Min is facing is only a sequence of questions. What should we do first and then what to do instead of what we choose?

In fact, work is the same. Do the most urgent things first.

Making money after giving birth does not affect long-term development, but if you are busy with your career and miss your child, the balance may be broken.

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Shi Min asked, "when I'm a little older, I'm in my thirties. I'll make career changes then, and talk about whether career development is late. Do women who have children have chances?"

My view: opportunities always exist.

The possibility of seizing opportunities is directly proportional to the accumulation of core competitiveness of individuals.

According to the evaluation data, Shi Min's most suitable occupation type is trainer, expert and technical expert.

These roles are very demanding for practitioners' strength, including technical strength, perspective, experience, academic background, social cognition and so on. Whether the smooth conversion depends on whether the early accumulation is substantial.

The present environment can not only accumulate technical strength, but also accumulate training experience. In fact, it is a very good platform for growth.

Besides, this society does not even think that a more than 30 year old expert is too old!

I work for Shi Min.

It is suggested that she should not rush to change at the moment.

First, give birth to children, children are slightly bigger, then do conversion.

In the next few years, we will accumulate more profound technical strength and rich training experience.

At the same time, we should pay more attention to the information that is related to our own technology, so that we can have enough understanding of the whole industry and determine a few goals.

This way:

1, avoid risks. If you finally survive in the fierce competition, you will be faced with a more than 30 year old child. The career development will be faulted. It is impossible for the company to allow an important position to be left unoccupied. Postpartum may not be able to return to the original post. If you want to readjust to the new job, it is difficult to take care of the children.

2, if a few years later, children can let go, and lay a good foundation at the same time, then the growth of their own value is much larger than it is now.

Postscript: Shi Min called the phone.

She said that she really didn't want to give up and hate to turn into two people. I really enjoyed myself by communicating with me. Finally, an annoying problem was solved. At the same time, I also made clear the future direction of development.

Having consulted with his husband, the two have reached a consensus.

In the future, when she changes jobs, he will give her much support. They are arranging the baby room to welcome the arrival of the baby.