Three Psychological Battles In The Workplace Have To Be Understood.

Most people often have a sense of "others as the center". Under this constraint, their desires and desires disappear and are tied up to no purpose.

If you can liberate yourself from the consciousness of "others centered", the fear you will hold will also disappear. You will guide your original power and act in accordance with your wishes to get freedom and satisfaction.

Don't guess again, just speculate to be afraid.

A woman asked me to discuss this matter.

"The workload my boss gave me, no matter what I thought, was not processed by me."

"You told your boss.

Can't you handle the amount yourself? "

"No, the boss is a high-profile attitude that is not negotiable. I am very scared that it is not an atmosphere that can be put forward."

Her attitude and expression were really timid.

"If we can't say so, what about those jobs?"

"No way, I had to work hard.

But now we are faced with the limit... "

After expressing her mood for a while, she began to guess the boss's idea: "calm down, the boss can't have no idea how big the workload is."

"Why did my boss know that the workload was too heavy and he would give it to me?"

In this way, she began to speculate and analyze with "why".

This is a typical thinking mode based on others.

"Why did the boss not hand over his work to other colleagues? Instead, he gave it to me. What was his purpose? Or what was the inside story? Maybe he wanted to force me on this.

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Of course, no matter how to guess the boss or analyze his boss, he still can't change his boss's decision.

On the contrary, these conjectures and suspicions will only expand their fear.

The enlarged suspicion formed a barrier.

In the foregoing example, suppose that the boss really harbours malice? What if he really has something to do with it? What should he do if he really wants to force himself to resign? And the more he is jealous of the other side and the other side, the more the boss will become a fearful barrier against himself.

And because she is too great, she will feel unable to face it. She is full of sense of powerlessness and despair.

But of course, these are the fears caused by her "unauthorized speculation".

It is almost impossible to speculate or suspect the other's inner thoughts.

Think about it, you want to find out the answer to "why", but we can not even fully understand our hearts, let alone understand what the other person is thinking.

When the problem goes further into the realm of potential consciousness, the clues that are perceived from the significant consciousness are totally useless.

There is no doubt about that.

Because the gap between "significant consciousness" and "latent consciousness" is so great.

The more people thinking about others, the less aware of their true feelings, the gap will naturally widen.

To follow or not, decide for yourself.

If you set the instructions in your life that you must obey, whatever you say, everything will be "orders and instructions" in your ears.

For example, your

Ask you, "do you have time to do this?" you should answer "yes" involuntarily.

In another scenario, the boss said to you loudly, "why? Why is this here?" when you feel that you are being held accountable and reprimanded.

If that thing is forgotten, you may feel like you are "bad guys who have been caught in bad deeds" and blame yourself.

Maybe the boss didn't mean it at all, just careless.

But from your ear, it may be like saying, "why is it so useless to do such a trifle?"

If you keep listening to your boss with such ears, your boss will become more and more.

If you have the idea of "do not want to do, but you must do it", you may refute, resist or be angry, even if you are quietly following the instructions of the other side because of fear.

For example, your boss tells you, "if you don't know how to do it, you can read this book."

He gave you a professional book.

However, what he said in your ears is: "not studying professional books is not enough."

Or, "why don't you understand it? It's a slow learner!"

You may think that your boss looks down on himself and makes sarcastic remarks.

Maybe it will still shed tears for this matter.

To get rid of this fear is to abandon the idea of "not obeying" and retrieve "inner freedom".

In this way, you should be able to get "freedom".