Interpersonal Communication: A Specific Answer To The "Three Point Method"

< p > when we are asked a question, if we can give a specific answer, we will let the other party feel that you have a more positive attitude towards a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp" > communication < /a >.

The colleague asked Kang Liang very carefully, "how many times have you learned how many times you've been studying oral English lessons? What's the effect?" Kang Liang replied, "not many times, the effect is general."

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The answer to p is nothing, but it will make the other person feel that Kang Liang does not want to communicate more on this issue.

If Kang Liang said, "8 times a week, 1 times a week, it will take 24 weeks altogether.

I have been able to take the initiative to call and communicate with foreign teachers... "

The answer will be quite different.

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< p > you might as well try the concrete "a href=" http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp "to answer the question of < /a >" three point method ", that is, to sum up the main idea into three points.

For example, at the end of the year, HR supervisor asks you to talk about the evaluation of the boss, you can answer from three aspects: "work ability", "leadership style" and "character characteristics".

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The advantage of < p > the "three point method" is that the content is not much. It can help you organize important contents quickly, and at the same time let the other side easily understand.

The "three point method" is especially applicable to some divergent and inconclusive "general questions", such as "work status" and "team impression". You will find that it will make the answer much more specific.

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< p > blue blue, when a href= "http://www.91se91.com/news/index_c.asp" > HR < /a > promised a probationary period of 3 months, and after the correction, the salary is raised to the first level.

But she got the same salary in fourth months.

Ya LAN found the supervisor, but it was not easy to ask directly: "I have been in the company for 4 months. Do you have any comments on my work?"

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The expression of "P > Ke Ya Blue is still very unnatural.

Although the supervisor was aware of this, the phone rang and dealt with other matters at once.

It was not until two months later that she realized that the HR report was wrong.

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< p > research shows that speech pmission only accounts for 7% of all information, while attitude, expression, movement and other visual information account for more than 55%.

Therefore, we should make full use of non-verbal information in conversation, because it can always "more honestly" let you know each other's intentions.

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P sometimes, the other person's question is obviously a casual question and doesn't seem to care about your answer.

For example, colleagues A after tea through your seat, "read what books?" asked, did not slow down.

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What is the value of answering questions such as "P"? Of course.

If you are indifferent to some people, communication always seems to stay in polite greetings. You always feel that even if you ask questions, the other person doesn't care about the answer.

Then try a positive answer, and it will probably push your relationship.

"This book is the best seller in last week's list. Do you want to see it?" generally speaking, a positive response will always make communication work and smooth the distance between each other.

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< p > in addition, if the other person first shows his opinion, then ask your attitude, "I want to ask you..."

"I want to discuss with you..."

In fact, the other party's questions often imply "I have a good idea".

At this point, you might as well first respond positively to a sentence that says "your idea is reasonable," and then give your opinion, believing that your conversation will be more pleasant.

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