Teaching You Through The Dangerous Period Of Communication

In the process of communication, people's attitudes, behaviors and feelings will change with the passage of time, the increase of communication scope and mutual understanding.

Communication brings fresh happiness and sweetness, which can also cause conflicts and dangers.

We might as well call the beginning of the communication process a "honeymoon" period. During this period, we all have a sense of freshness, hoping to get to know each other as much as possible and to leave a good impression on the other side and develop the friendship between the two sides.

Even more, "love at first sight".

The length of honeymoon is related to social maturity, age, educational level, experience and personality, and also to communication objects and communication environment.

The smaller the age and the lower the education level, the easier the experience is.

Then what are some manifestations of social danger that enable us to identify them?

First of all, from the individual in communication, it is the individual who is very familiar with the surrounding environment and people, and has already known and seen some shortcomings and shortcomings of the environment and individuals. He is unwilling to take the initiative to pay attention to and understand the environment and the demands of the people.

At this time, people in communication have some kind of indifferent critical emotions and even hostile feelings that they want to avoid.

No matter what time you are communicating, as long as you have these expressions and feelings, you are probably at the critical stage of communication.

Next is the change of the attitude of the communicators.

During the honeymoon period, people will have a kind of friendly care and trust for you. If there is anything you can avoid, respect your opinions at work, even if they disagree, they will patiently explain that they will always greet each other when they meet each other.

But after three or four months or six or seven months, it is no longer the case. First of all, you are less inquiring, and even less willing to greet each other every day.

Many things no longer discuss or talk with you, but avoid.

Sometimes you will find that when you go out for a while and go back to your work place, you find that everyone is gathering to speak. When you come, you suddenly stop and then slowly disperse.

If there is a situation, it means that your communication process is in a very dangerous state.

At this stage, you may hear such a story from one or two people: you should come soon, and in some places you should pay attention to it.

Or: we have some opinions about you, saying that you are not doing well and so on.

Again, there are problems, contradictions and conflicts in communication.

At this point, you think someone doesn't like you and knows who they are, and you don't like them either.

In terms of speech and work, do not take the initiative, take a non cooperative attitude, even quarrel and conflict.

This is the most obvious phenomenon in the critical period of communication.

If I want to pass the dangerous period of communication, I think there are the following points:

First, be calm.

Now that the danger period is coming, let it be ready. This is a necessary process and stage. Everyone is the same.

In order to be calm and calm, we should keep normal communication with everyone during this period, and do what we should do.

Be enthusiastic and help others as much as possible.

Two, treat others fairly.

Everyone should be treated equally.

Even if you see the difference between people, you should always be consistent in your attitude, and don't try to please your boss.

Those who are willing to accept and refuse to accept can not show "love and hate" and try to balance them.

We should not participate in the competition of the original factions. We should be willing to be an outsider and engage in "all-round diplomacy".

The three is to avoid conflict.

Direct confrontation and open conflict are the most harmful to the image of individuals in communication. They must be avoided. Even if others come to fight with you, you must endure humiliation and smile and turn away quickly.

Roosevelt once said to his opponent: "I seldom get angry. I never jump on the trap that the enemy has laid down."

The four is to work hard.

Don't ask any organization or individual to ask for anything, to work hard and make achievements to stand firm.

At this point, you may start to work harder for you to accomplish these tasks that you are not too happy to do.

A very capable elder sister once told me: "the more you do not want to do, the harder you have to do it. If you finish it earlier, you will not have to do it and get rid of it."

At the same time, do not put forward big or small opinions or suggestions for others' work, focus on your own affairs, and pay attention to what you should not pay attention to.

The five is private communication.

When I don't care and pay no attention, I will talk about work and encounter some problems and progress.

Just talk about work, usually 3 to 5 minutes, after listening to each other's opinions, and then said: "you do not say I really do not know, this is the case.

I should go to work. "

Then walk away.

When you are accepted and appreciated, often when I call your name to say something irrelevant, when you think you have some initiative, the communication process becomes free and happy, it means that you have successfully passed the crisis of communication.