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Stress Is Actually A Matter Of Ability.

2008/10/15 11:27:00 41830

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Difficulties are like springs. If you are weak, they will be strong. If you are strong, they will be weak.

When you are overstressed and tired, you sometimes wonder if you underestimate your abilities too much.

Ah Qing has been feeling terrible recently. Promotion and salary increase are due to a fire in the workplace, which makes her work harder.

The work procrastination, until it can not be delayed, not interested in the work which was very interesting before, want to play, want to sleep, just do not want to work.

　　公司每個(gè)月要做一次工作總結(jié)，這是很常規(guī)的工作。這個(gè)月，阿清感覺自己就要崩潰了，“什么爛總結(jié)，總結(jié)有實(shí)際意義嗎？浪費(fèi)時(shí)間、浪費(fèi)精力……”她暗自抱怨個(gè)沒完。可怕的是，這種情緒已經(jīng)傳染到了生活之中，老公出差了，一個(gè)人的生活更顯無趣，早上更不想上班，下班不想回家，只想出去走走。看什么都覺得不順眼：天氣熱得過分，城市人口太多了，什么小事都可以成為她滿腹牢騷的大理由。

The anguish of Qing wants to travel. This is the only way she can think of changing the status quo, but she has no time.

What was her sudden bad mood?

Psychological expert's words:

I think a lot of friends have had such an experience, that is, they feel depressed, have no motivation for work and career, and are also accompanied by insomnia, anxiety, suspicious, poor appetite, and even some friends will have some aggressive thoughts or behaviors.

There are many factors that may appear in the state described above, but with my years of experience in psychological counseling, it is found that among so many factors, there is a factor that will inevitably arise, that is, pressure.

Just like ah Qing, promotion also means more responsibilities and pressure.

When faced with this new pressure and challenge, ah Qing adopted "escape", so that the pressure snowball growth, and began to slowly spread to all aspects of life.

Pressure itself is a vague word. It does not have any specific meaning in itself. It is only embodied in things. Its strength is based on our inner feelings.

Another explanation is that when you think that your ability is lower than the ability of an event, stress will arise.

In this case, we first need to adjust our ability in this case.

Some friends may ask, the ability is already solidified, how to adjust?

Indeed, what kind of abilities we have has solidified at the time of events, but this does not mean that your own ability to understand is "comprehensive".

The adjustment I have said is to recognize my abilities from a new and objective perspective.

This requires us to analyze carefully what abilities we need in the event of pressure and what abilities I have.

Those are my strengths, and those are my weaknesses.

When analyzing the missing part of the ability, continue to analyze how to have that ability, or whether there are other ways to replace it.

Through this understanding, you will find that things that looked so bad and unreachable could become clear and accessible.

But this is just the beginning. After that, you need to follow the analysis step by step to make it really accessible.

In addition, the appropriate decompression method is also necessary, can do some relaxation training, listen to music, do aerobics and so on.

If conditions permit, you can also seek help from psychological professionals.

Anyway, everything is objective. As Lei Feng put it in a famous saying, "difficulties are like springs, you are weak, they are strong, you are strong enough to be weak". Only positive facing is the ultimate solution. Just avoiding it is just making it more powerful.