20 Bad Habits Impede Your Success.

Intelligence and skills are not the reasons why some people are successful but others are stagnant. At the same time, they are not related to a person's ability, experience and training. What plays a decisive role is the behavior of a person.

In short, it is usually habitual behavior that leads to the stagnation of successful people themselves.

Similarly, successful people often feel that their current behavior patterns can still help themselves achieve more success in the future.

They do not realize that they have succeeded in the past, but they also have behavioral defects. They do not understand that their actions are hindering themselves to exert their greatest potential, whether in work or in life.

This book mainly helps people identify and correct bad habits that prevent success.

The essence of the "no trial and error method" is essentially his discussion and conclusion on "20 habits that prevent you from reaching the throne of success": "1." is too competitive: Gode Smith points out that exceeding the competitive needs of others is almost the root cause of all behavioral problems.

2. increase in value: that is, you can't help modifying your colleagues or subordinates' very mature ideas.

Goldsmith said, "it's hard for a successful person to be patient and listen to what other people tell them." even if they listen to them, they will declare in advance that "I know all you know" or "I know there is a better way".

The drawback of this behavior is that although a certain idea may be slightly improved, it will lead to a sharp decline in the enthusiasm of others.

3. judgment: "do not make judgements when interrogating others' opinions.

Even if you ask questions and agree with the answers. "

Gode Smith suggested hiring a friend. You must pay a fine of 10 dollars every time you make a judgement when you don't need to make a judgement.

4. of us make harmful comments: sometimes people like to play tricks on others or even mean something. But when we feel it is necessary to criticize others, we must know that negative comments may hurt working relationships.

It is better to ask "is it worth it" than to ask "is this true?"

For this habit, Goldsmith also suggested using a fine method to correct it.

The 5. habit is "no", "but" or "however".

Almost all people have this habit, and most of them do not realize that they have this habit.

But Goldsmith said, as long as you pay attention to observation, "you will find how people use these words to gain or consolidate their authority.

You will also find out how strongly people are against these words, which may be conscious or unconscious, and how they make the discussion deadlocked rather than open.

This habit can also be corrected by a fine from me.

6., show off your intelligence to others: "this is another bad habit we need to overcome."

When the 7. is angry, speak fourth.

The 8. likes to deny others, or "I will explain why I can't do that."

Goldsmith believes that such behavior is a real and thorough negation of others' opinions under the guise of help.

9., retain information: This is related to fighting for power.

Goldsmith believed that even the most kind-hearted people are constantly doing this kind of behavior.

"Sometimes we are so busy that we do not have time to reply to valuable information. Sometimes we forget to ask someone to attend meetings or discussions, sometimes assign tasks to subordinates, but do not explicitly tell them how to complete their tasks. All these actions are deliberately keeping information."

The 10. does not recognize others: "in fact, it also keeps information in disguise."

Smith won 11. of the credit: to help himself realize this problem, Gode suggested listing all the praise we get within a certain day, and then checking them one by one to see if they really deserve the praise.

12., for example, he made excuses for himself: including a straightforward excuse (claiming to be his own fault due to external causes such as traffic problems, secretary's fault, etc.) and clever excuse (self mockery to explain that he could not change his habit of being late. He was naturally procrastinating or grumpy, hoping to tell others that "I was born this way".

13.: "if your problem is to accept the past, then understanding the past is all right, but if your problem is to change the future, then understanding the past may not solve your problem."

Gode Smith points out that we tend to cling to the past because we can make excuses to avoid problems in our lives.

14. likes to talk about hobbies: this kind of practice will lead to an atmosphere of flattery, while affirming the act of flattery will cultivate hypocritical leaders.

15. refused to express regret: "sorry" may give you more friends or even more partners.

The first thing Goldsmith taught to his clients was to apologize to every partner who was willing to help himself, and to apologize in person.

16. is unwilling to listen to others' opinions: the potential implication of this behavior is "I don't care about you", "I don't understand you," "you are wrong", "you are stupid," or "you are wasting my time."

17., "I don't want to express my gratitude." thank you for not spending money or wasting resources. Gratitude is as rich as air.

When we accept others' gratitude, we forget to express our thanks. "

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Gode Smith suggests correcting this habit by saying thank you to as many people as possible.

18., those who punish the messenger: this bad habit combines the bad habits of tenth, eleventh, nineteenth, 4, 16 and 17, and is mixed with strong anger.

19., shirk responsibility: "we can use this to judge our superiors, which is as remarkable as the quality of resourcefulness and courage."

20., too, preach "ego": "make our weaknesses into advantages", because these shortcomings will reflect our true selves, but this will be the most insurmountable obstacle to our long-term behavior improvement.