The Aggressive "Workplace Queen Bee" Can Not Be Provoked

Smart, capable and ambitious - in the eyes of her boss and colleagues, Kelly, who is in her early 30s, is a promising "star of tomorrow"; However, after entering a large consulting company, the mentality of this strong woman in the workplace can only be described as "five flavors mixed", and confusion even gave rise to some inexplicable fears. The "culprit" of all this was Caroline, one of the few female partners in the company and the head boss who had invited her to join the company.

At the beginning of her career, Kelly has naively assumed that in the male dominated consulting industry, two women in the workplace will inevitably have a twinge of sympathy, and Caroline may become the one who will help her further Workplace Tutor. However, on the contrary, she was gradually excluded from the power core of the company. Caroline ignored her proposal, often rudely interrupted her speech, and even hinted to other executives that she "might change her job", despite her reputation for performance.

"What did I do wrong? What should I do?" Kelly's confusion is not accidental. Peggy, associate professor of psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College Drexler), it seems that many times, Kelly did not do anything wrong, but unfortunately encountered a highly aggressive "workplace queen bee". In line with the principle of "same-sex repulsion", they will not look at their loyal female subordinates differently or give help, or even create difficulties and stab at others everywhere.

In 2007, the National Employment Law Alliance conducted a large-scale investigation on "workplace bullying". Of the 1000 volunteers interviewed, 45% had been intimidated or bullied; Among these "office bullies" who often bully their subordinates or colleagues by verbal insults, provoking discord, abusing power, and "wearing shoes", the "queen bee" accounts for 40%! From 2010 to 2011, a further survey showed that 80% of "Queen Bees" used to "wear small shoes" for female subordinates, an increase of 9% compared with 2007; On the contrary, "male overlords" treat all subordinates equally. Not only that, 95% of female respondents believe that they have experienced "cold arrows" in the workplace, or homosexual "cross swords"; stay Female supervisor Women who work under them often have to bear greater physiological and psychological pressure - just as the old saying goes: why do women bother women?

And this pressure It is like a bone melting cotton palm. It often hurts people invisibly, leaving no way to complain and no way to deal with it. Food writer Irene has a seemingly glamorous job, but in the face of her moody and outspoken female boss Jane, she can only swallow her teeth: one second they are gossiping about each other like girlfriends, the next second Irene will be cursed with blood because of the unwarranted "crime"; To make matters worse, she found that Jane was keen on fabricating "sexy news" about herself: having an affair with a married man, being a "gunman" for a friend's restaurant, etc. Obviously, Jane has become a "roadblock" in Irene's career, and colleagues began to look at Irene with different eyes; However, complaints or counterattacks do not seem to help solve the problem. "What can I say? The boss speaks ill of me behind my back?" Irene asked reluctantly. "Or do you want to treat others in their own way and slander your boss behind his back?"

In the workplace, "same-sex repulsion" is an irrefutable truth: it is hateful to wear small shoes for female subordinates, and there are many female subordinates who are picky and disrespectful to female supervisors. A survey conducted by Syracuse University shows that female subordinates often complain about female bosses who are "not considerate enough"; They are particularly disgusted with female bosses whose style is "rough and flamboyant". They like to question each other's decisions, even openly and covertly; He has no objection to the male boss who is also "rude and publicity".

Female managers are often considered as a supplement to the male radical style. However, as a link in the food chain, the "Queen Bee" treats potential competitors with a ruthless attitude just like the autumn wind sweeps away the fallen leaves. People do not imagine that the spring breeze turns into rain, and it is gentle and genial. It is undeniable that women in power have always been a minority in the workplace. In the world's top 500 enterprises, women CEOs account for only 2%, and women members of the board of directors account for only 16%. Therefore, the fear of "either or" in everyone's heart is almost "born". Men take fear as their way of advancement. Why can't women? Who is the original sin of a woman who embarrasses her?