Watch Out For Eight Behaviors That Are Far Away From Success.

At work, I can reach those who live in complete accordance with their own life and love them absolutely. By observing their behavior, I can see how they think, react, interact with people, solve problems and lead their employees.

I have applied these experiences to myself and those I have trained.

I have noticed that those who love their careers and have created amazing successes and rewards not only work day and night, but also deliberately avoid negative behaviors and attitudes, while less successful people are often lost.

Far from success, the eight restrictions on self development are:

1. fall into "negative" thinking

Negative thinking refers to a specific mindset that limits your outlook on the world.

It makes you believe that you are powerless to control things that happen to you, and that it is the fault of others - the economic environment, the industry, your boss, your spouse, etc.

Negative thinking is always like this: "what happens is unfair, and I do not have the ability to overcome these challenges.

I didn't expect it to happen. I can't handle this. "

On the contrary, positive thinking is thinking, "I see clearly the obstacles ahead, and I will open my eyes to remove these obstacles.

I am responsible for my life and career. I have enough ability to succeed.

If I fail, I will still wake up tomorrow, and I will be able to learn something crucial. "

The success of successful people is the result of their current actions.

The unsuccessful person always indulge in unrealistic fantasies in order to temporarily paralyze the suffering in the situation.

For example, a company employee once told me, "Casey, I really hate my job and I can't stay for a moment."

Over the years, I have always wanted to write a book and become an inspirational speaker.

Do you have any advice on this? "I would say," well, it's good.

Are you writing and giving speeches? "

No.

If you haven't started writing a single sentence, it's impossible to create a book. If you don't have anything to say, then speaking in public will be a mere idiot.

In order to succeed, the most important thing is to act bravely in your vision.

Successful people will also set ambitious goals, but they will break them down into smaller and easier to digest (but still need to take courage) action steps, and then they will move forward step by step to achieve the ultimate goal naturally.

3. lack of strength and silence.

People have strengths and are not afraid to use them and express them.

They will speak up and argue for themselves, others and what they care about, and will not be ashamed to say how they stand out from the competition.

They understand their unique strengths and the value they can bring.

Moreover, they do not hesitate to raise doubts. They respond positively to the challenges that come face to face, and calmly talk about themselves in a calm, calm and elegant manner.

They never hide their problems.

And they will not regard themselves as victims of misfortune.

In those who feel frustrated and failed, I see this behavior over and over again - they are extremely unwilling to invest time, money and energy in their own and their own growth.

They feel comfortable only when they put others' needs before their own needs.

They will put forward a lot of excuses to explain why it is not time to invest in themselves or commit to change.

When they say "I am worth it", they feel guilty and uneasy.

Successful people do not wait in situ - they invest money, time and energy for their own development, because they know that this will undoubtedly be rewarded not only for themselves, but also for everyone around them.

5. resist change

Successful people will not fight against the tide, nor will they drown.

They conform to the trend.

They followed and embraced the trend.

They know how to be flexible, tactful and flexible.

They are flexible and respond to emergencies flexibly.

Those who are not successful lament What is happening in front of them, and get stuck in the past or they can't extricate themselves from their "original expectations" and complain that life is backfired and unsatisfactory.

6. being led by other people's nose

Successful people know what is most important to them - their priorities, what they value and care about, and their mission and purpose.

They do not drift aimlessly along the stream - they are masters themselves, know where they want to go, and move bravely in the direction of their dreams.

To do this, they are clear about their priorities in life and work, and will not be influenced by other people's priorities and values.

In short, they have very clear boundaries and know what is their own business and what others are doing.

They are brave enough to say "no" to the efforts and actions (and ideas) that will lead them off the track.

They know what they want to create, what they want to leave behind, and work hard every day.

7. doubt yourself and your instincts.

Those who doubt themselves, lack confidence in their instincts or instincts, or criticize themselves afterwards will always find that they are not able to get close to the goals they want.

Successful professionals believe in themselves without exception.

Of course, they also admit their lack of ability or blind spots, and the need for further development.

But they forgive themselves for not being able to know everything and have made mistakes, and accept themselves.

They always cherish hope and optimism and know that lessons learned from these mistakes will be of great help.

8. ask for a simple answer with empty hands.

I often judge whether they will succeed in their newly established businesses and careers in their first contact with others.

How to distinguish? By observing their expectations, and how they proceed to achieve these expectations.

For example, if a completely unfamiliar person asks me for free help without considering what he can offer, this is a bad sign.

For example, the other side asked a question like this: "I am creating my new company, I wonder if you can give me some suggestions.

I can't pay you, because I'm just starting, but anyway, I still want to get your help. "

From this email, I knew that she could not succeed in her new company.

Why do we say so? Because successful professionals (and those who are destined to succeed) will not consider seeking help in this way.

On the contrary, they will: 1) in any case, they know that they can provide something important and valuable.

2) willing and willing to share or exchange for what they want.

3) they can think differently about others.

Successful professionals are respectful, resourceful, eager, competent and persistent, and they will think about how to get the help they need instead of asking for it.

I don't mean that they do not seek help when they need help, or use many free resources they can get (such as Score.org, etc.).

I mean, they don't expect nothing for nothing.

They treat others equally and fairly, and know that they themselves deserve the same treatment.

Successful professionals know that if they are unwilling to pay for the products and services they want, others will not be willing to pay them (yes, this process is like a causal loop).

They also know that their success is directly proportional to their efforts. The most important thing is that they know there is no shortcut or a simple answer on the road to success.