Research Shows That Many Girls Are Afraid Of Career Success.

Studies have shown that many women are afraid of career success. Why do workplace women not dare to succeed?

Women in the workplace, for various reasons, are often very difficult to achieve their own success, so often have not yet reached the peak of their career has stopped.

Career success brings a sense of success and satisfaction to men, but it brings anxiety and even criticism to many girls.

What is the reason why the elite women in the workplace dare not succeed?

Some women are afraid of success.

The fear of success in career women has been discovered in the last century.

Martina Hoerner, an American psychologist, has studied and revealed that 65% of women are generally afraid of the results after success, while men only 9%.

This kind of psychological state of success still exists today.

For men, it may be just a matter of working hard, but this is obviously not suitable for women.

If they want to go to the top of their careers, they should not only pay more efforts than men, but also face various pressures and challenges, including the demands of the society on the role of women, and how to balance the relationship between career and family.

All these make many career women doubt or even shake their career pursuit. Some people choose to return to the traditional family pattern of "husband and son", while many people hang around in balancing different roles and always struggle in the ambivalence of both eager for success and fear of success.

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Choose to return to a stable life.

If many girls are still complacent at graduation, they will begin to waver at the beginning of their lives.

Next year, Lucy, 30, is now a teacher in a senior vocational and technical school. This steady income and two long holidays a year seems to be very enviable, but not her first choice.

Lucy, who was born in the Department of psychology, went to the UK to pursue further studies after graduation. He attacked the master's degree in human resource management. After two years, he returned home and was ambitious to work hard.

"I have entered several different companies in succession. However," returnees "have not been popular these days. They not only earn a lot of money, but also work hard.

Lucy, who was a student union president from the University, told reporters: "actually, I was not afraid of hardship and fear of fatigue. After coming back from England, I had been longing for success and worked hard every day, even at the expense of private time.

It's just that I'm getting older, and I have a regular boyfriend around me. My feelings are not bad, and family matters are on the agenda.

Changing jobs and returning to a relatively stable teaching team is mainly the meaning and arrangement of Lucy's father.

"Considering that the end of this year is going to get married and have babies, I finally compromise. Women are not much more than men. There are too many things to consider," she said.

She said.

Viewpoints

Balancing career and family

Do well

Wang Weidong, senior advisor of the management consulting group, said that Lucy is not uncommon.

The reason why they are shaken is mainly because it is a natural process of physiological change, that is to say, the motherhood of women is beginning to play a role, and the interest in work gradually turns to "the husband and the son".

Secondly, the perennial workplace competition may make them tired, instead of wishing to be the woman behind them.

The responsibilities of women in the family make it easier for them to give up their pursuit of work than men.

If we want to balance the relationship between them, in Wang Weidong's opinion, we should first do a good job in life planning.

A reasonable life plan will determine whether women can strike a balance between family and career from the strategic level.

There is no contradiction between family and career before marriage. Once married, the conflict between family and career will become more and more prominent. Therefore, from the beginning of marriage, women will have to plan for the next several years, how to give birth to children, when to start focusing their energies on work, and where to plan their own work.

Once planning is made, family and career will be focused on stage, so that the family members will be more acceptable and not be in a hurry.

"Defining the key points is crucial."

He said.

Like men, family is the cornerstone of women's career.

If the family relationship is not handled well, it will be difficult for women to concentrate on their work matters, so that they will feel "homesick when they are at home and feel homesick at work".

Wang Weidong said, if necessary, dare to choose.

"If you get married and have children, you will not be good to your children and yourself if you have the best childbearing age, so you must make a decision in this matter."

give counsel

The way to success: stick to the breakthrough of women's roles

In Wang Weidong's view, it is obviously useless for women in the workplace to imitate the success of men. As a woman, she should stick to her role and achieve her desired success in the workplace.

Workplace women need to constantly replenish new knowledge and care for good family relationships, so that a harmonious family can make women put more energy into their work.

Finally, it is best to establish realistic goals.

He has the following suggestions:

Maintain feminine tenderness.

You don't have to be aggressive like men and unite with all those who can unite.

To maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships, it is not advisable to maintain close relationships with male colleagues, especially the superiors, otherwise it is easy for people to misunderstand.

Although this may be a shortcut, it may be at the cost of losing one's personality.

Women rely on their own strength to win the respect and success of others.

We must stick to our views when we insist.

Women's opinions are easily overlooked. If you stick to and prove that you are right at the critical moment, it will be more likely to be valued by the boss than the male.

We should give full play to the characteristics of women's meticulous and conscientious work, and do their job well in order to develop more space.

We must not "look at the mountain high" and finally lose the opportunity.

Tips

How to win in the competition with men?

To be a man.

Hide yourself and not easily expose your strength.

Women themselves are easy to ignore their existence, so they can use this characteristic to accumulate their strength and strive for a chance to win.

Use the characteristics of femininity and handle all kinds of interpersonal relationships properly.

This may win more supporters than male competitors.

If you do not want everything, you only need to specialize.

Women spend less time and energy on work than men, so they only need to maintain their advantages in certain areas.