How To Make A Person Who Is More Senior Than Himself?

People's knowledge, culture, experience and status are different, so they are divided into common and honourable ones. This is the level difference of interpersonal relationship, and it is also a kind of natural Order. The honorable person is a relative concept. Everyone is honorable and has his own respect from the object. Our position will change with different partners. Although honourable persons do not belong to the same category of communication with us, we have some communication barriers, but we can break the barriers and communicate with them, and even develop friendship. Then how do we develop friendship with honourable ones?

First, respect each other.

To develop friendship with honourable people, first of all, we must accurately grasp the relationship between the two sides, give them corresponding positions and fully show respect for him. This is the confirmation and orientation of the relationship between the two sides. It is also a satisfaction for the other party's respect and wishes. It must be strict and consistent. Xiao Xu was very appreciated by the director of the office of education. The leader is a teacher and is also approachable. He did not meet Xiao Xu, but he praised Xiao Xu's talent, and asked Xiao Xu to talk with him. Xiao Xu did not lose his mind in front of the leaders. He was so self absorbed, and his manners and manners were strict and appropriate. Although the leader is cheerful, he has repeatedly expressed his wish to be a little casual, but he still feels happy about Xiao Xu's actions. He feels that he is not mistaken. In this way, Xiao Xu gradually established friendship with the leader.

Two, avoid flattery, neither humble nor overbearing.

Respect is based on principles and true feelings. If we ignore principles, other purposes, personality degradation, shame and shame, we will show flattery to the honourable ones. It seems to respect each other on the surface. In fact, it is different from respect. Flattery, hypocrisy, exaggeration and ulterior motives can only make the honorable people resentment, disgust, hate. Friendship could have been built, but it could not develop because the two sides lost their true feelings. We can not exclude those who are honorable, who are fond of listening to flattery and obsequious. But is it necessary for such an honorable person to develop friendship with him?

Three, attitude is natural.

Honourable people, regardless of status, or experience or knowledge, are all above us. With them Contact We often respect us. Sometimes we still have a sense of coercion. We are ordinary people, especially young people who have never seen the world. Under such circumstances, they often seem to be out of shape. In fact, honorable persons are also our equal communication objects, and also a kind of natural communication relationship. We should respect them on the one hand, and on the other hand, we should also be based on ourselves, keep our positions and maintain our true colors. On the contrary, it can show its charm of communication, win the recognition and respect of the other side, and the honorable people will be happy to develop friendship with us. Xiao bin is a talented young man who wants to make progress. He wants to associate with some respectable predecessors, but all of them end up in failure. The reason for this is that Xiao bin is too reserved. He has a nest of burying bags and a trivial phenomenon. Of course, he has disappointed his predecessors. How can he develop friendship with him?

Four, Qiao will match, not arrogant.

From the process of communication, honorable persons are the protagonists of communication, while we are minor roles. This is the status quo of communication as well as communication. Law It is determined by the identity and communicative energy of each other. We should actively support the honorable people, enthusiastically cooperate with the honourable ones, saddle the horse, obey the need, and wait for the dispatch. This is a communicative reality, not only will not damage their "value", and will get the trust of the honorable. And if you can't straighten up this relationship, it's inappropriate to show your ability, shake your talent, and even abandon and exclude the honorable people. This is often the opposite. Xiao Chan always hopes to show his talent, so that he can be recognized by one of his most respected old people. Once, the old man sang Peking Opera at the party. Although he did not sing well, he still won applause. Xiao can also think that his bright voice will make the elderly feel like a bosom friend. So the Peking opera was loud and loud, but the old man felt very unnatural on the stage. Although Xiao can be well intentioned, will the old man develop friendship with him?

Five, take the initiative and be sincere and make a gesture.

The honorable person's behavior is consistent with his status and status. They usually do not take the initiative to associate with us, but as an ordinary person, his status is lower than his status. He must be active and sincere, take a step forward and make friendly gestures. This is a virtue respected by his superiors and a tradition of communication. Xiao Wen met an accomplished writer at a meeting. He cherished the relationship very much. But he was an ordinary person and a small character. But Xiaowen regards it as natural, but has no anger. He sends cards to the writer every festival. Finally, the writer remembered Xiao Wen and had an unusual friendship with him.

Six, seek help, take care.

Honourable is a symbol of strength. In front of him, we look weak and immature. So accept and care. This is what we seek and urgently need to get along with the honorable people. Two, as an honorable person, he will also get the pleasure of giving and supporting. It is a realization of self worth. In search of care, we must respect the wishes of honourable people. Two, we should be moderately appropriate, and not rely on those who are honorable. This includes proper help seeking and a certain degree of seeking advice. This will be recognized by the honourable and his friendship will be achieved. Xiao Gang is very respectfully respected by a famous teacher in this school. He took the initiative to worship him as a teacher, and he often asked questions for help and help. Because Xiao Gang respected his habits and habits and hobbies, he would gain every advice. And in this time of consultation, the teacher also had a strong interest in Xiao Gang, and gradually had a deep friendship.