Workplace Smart Girl: &Nbsp; Teach You To Grasp The Bottom Line Of "Aggressive".

　　 Key word Workplace women

　　 Modern women Few are weak and bullied sheep, but too aggressive is not a good thing. Because it doesn't get what you want. Unquestionable and flexible attitude does not offend people, but also achieves the purpose. That is the direction of smart women's efforts. In fact, between aggressive and tactful, sometimes only A line of difference 。

In recent years, psychologists have been emphasizing that modern women must be brave enough to speak themselves and speak the deepest voices of their hearts. But when we see friends in the shop and salesgirl pointing at their noses, we will still keep them in mind. Although this kind of tough and spicy personality is very sexy, it can achieve its purpose in a few times, but the frenzied challenge character has been out in this era. Remember last time when you threatened your boss and said, "if you don't promise me, I will resign", how did he answer you? "Well, don't make me happy, or you are too cruel." Fight hard, no one can be more ruthless than you. Every time you disagree with others, you should ask yourself what strategies you should take to achieve your goals. Sometimes you may be caught in a dilemma: is it to be aggressive or to give in to compromise? BIBA will give you the wisest answer.

Meeting with colleagues

For example, at the regular meeting of the company, you are discussing the issue of product sales. Strawberry flavored waffle biscuits have been declining recently. So you suggest buying two to one sales promotion: that is, you can buy three packages of biscuits at the price of two bags of biscuits. Despite your modest appearance, your heart is secretly satisfied, waiting to hear other people's applause. Strangely enough, however, the applause had not yet sounded, but heard a whisper of voices: "who put this fool in?" and then there was a sudden silence.

Aggressive: you spent 1 hours to convince everyone: "this is definitely an innovation." But the continuous silence makes you feel depressed. Anger went straight to the top of the head, and the silly words blurted out, "why do you take such a strange attitude towards all my work?" Because there is at least one person waiting for you in the room. Of course, worse still: "is my idea so wonderful, so you envy me?" then we can only say "one consequence is conceited". In the next week, you still put on a big mouth, until you heard another bad news before you smile again: the sales of waffles dropped by 5 percentage points. The hero was supposed to have a useful place, but you were wrong. Because of your "wonderful" performance at the seminar, employees of all departments have consistently eliminated your proposal, even though it may be an effective plan, and you have since fallen into a "arrogant" reputation.

Tactful and sensible: psychologists tell us that we need to be efficient in listening to others or in speaking. In other words, we must speak to him when others are ready to listen to you. The first thing you should do at that meeting is to listen to others. Because they only concentrate on listening to your speech after they have finished speaking. Even if you speak their minds in a bad way, they must pretend to be interested in listening, so that they can lay a solid foundation for their speaking atmosphere. Second, pay attention to the way of speaking. Then don't say "yes, but..." when someone else says something. Start with "yes, and..." Let's begin. It is not very important whether or not the opinion added after "support" is supported or opposed, because the listens have already felt that they are quite useful. Third, if your proposal has not been accepted, do not put on a bad face or say "no" to other people's suggestions. Ask why "why" is not only generous but also an opportunity for one's own suggestions. Fourth, learn to change topics. If your efforts are still not recommended, then don't go to a blind alley again. Let's put aside the problem first. Let's talk about another matter. Maybe there will be a turnaround later. When appropriate, don't forget to compliment the other person: "buy three to send one, it's a good idea!"

Say "no" to a friend.

Friends have many functions. Sometimes, they are a group of people who play with you and bring you happiness, but at other times they become the ones who bother you and bother you. Because friends always ask you all kinds of requests in a euphemistic way. For example, "if you can help our pet dog when we go on holiday, I will be very grateful." "can you lend me 5000 yuan? I promise to pay you back next month": "I will rely on you to move on the weekend!" too many requests are hard to deal with. To say "no" does not mean that you are unwilling to lend a helping hand to a friend, but that you have the right to shout "stop" when you are overwhelmed.

Aggressive type: in order to deny friends to borrow money, borrow a car, borrow a husband as a labor force, or even borrow the apartment to open all kinds of Party requirements, do not hesitate to fabricate lies and cheat. Find out something like "uh, weekend relatives at home," or "unfortunately, my husband's company has to work overtime tomorrow" and so on. Worst of all, you are likely to be caught by a friend and expose on the spot: "you told me your husband had to work overtime, but did I see him in the supermarket clearly? Did he work in the supermarket?" this kind of life not only makes us more tired, but also keeps the relationship between friends deteriorating from friends to friends.

　　 Tactful and sensible: it is not difficult to say "sorry, not this time". This is the only and best way to refuse friends. If you really are friends, you don't need to justify yourself. Just tell the other person clearly that you don't like her dog and have no time to help her move. If the other party persists, you can suggest to you as much as you can to find other time or find someone else to do it. Don't be silly and say to her, "I know that this may offend you, but I can never do your request." This is not a resolute but a farewell.