Is Workplace Friendship An Advantage Or A Burden?

There is a story that depicts the subtlety of workplace relationships directly and vividly: two hedgehogs, together with the cold to warm themselves.

But because they have thorns on each side, too close to each other, they will be stuck by each other, too far away, and it will be too cold to bear.

After many twists and turns, finally found a suitable distance, not too painful, nor too cold.

In the workplace, dealing with the relationship between superiors, colleagues and customers is actually finding the distance between "warmth and not being tied up".

Friendship, advantages or burdens?

Marie and her superiors have been close friends. They go to restaurants for dinner and chat in bars. They talk to each other about their family matters, talk about their emotional problems, exchange gifts with each other during the holidays, everything looks more like a colleague than a relationship.

Marie suddenly told me that she decided to change her job because her relationship with her boss had become an obstacle to her work development.

Although her superiors often say she supports her promotion in the workplace, every time when she submits her ideas about work, she will say that those ideas are not perfect enough to reject it.

Gradually, she realized that her boss was in a delicate competitive relationship with her.

Similar personality made them friends, but it also became the reason why she could not develop.

At the same time, because of her close relationship with her boss, she was also misunderstood and alienated from other colleagues in the company.

Friendship and friendship between employees and superiors are friendly.

Not friendship.

Eating short mouth and short hands are not equal in nature. What about friendship?

Sharing your personal life with your boss appropriately will help you to build a sense of trust and friendly atmosphere. At least you can get your boss's understanding, rather than direct misunderstanding, to a certain extent, because of your personal problems, which temporarily affect your work performance.

But this kind of personal information must be screened, and the degree and way of sharing must also be observed.

Once a friend who regarded his boss as a "friend", he was very proud to invite his boss to the "luxury house" that he had just purchased. He also introduced his experience of buying houses with a slightly showcase. As a result, he was said to have not been paid any more since two years later. Although his boss seemed too small minded, he could not help but say that he asked for it.

Another drawback to making friends with superiors is suspicion and Prejudice from other colleagues.

It is because of the inequality of hierarchy, and the intimacy of the boss's "brother", no matter what it means, it seems to be "deliberate upward".

In a company, even if it is large enough to occupy a whole floor of office, even if there is a lattice baffle half of the line of sight, everyone in the room will notice the person who often goes alone to his boss office and sometimes closes his speech.

When you talk to your boss at the company meeting, only when you know each other, you are not showing your unique status, but isolating yourself.

In today's fiercely competitive workplace, no matter it is innocence and innocence, or hypocrisy, it is only ridiculous to insist on the "pure" friendship between themselves and their superiors.

So, since both sides are laborious and thankless, why do you need comrades?

"Water can carry a boat, and it can also overturn the boat." once a senior man said to me, "what is the friendship built on that basis in competition in the same industry and conflict of interests?"

In the workplace, this life and death of the rivers and lakes, who dares to say that he will not "get knife"?

In fact, with the lengthening of working hours, the limitation of lunch location and the increase of team activities, it is almost impossible to have any friends in the company.

Making friends with colleagues will help you a lot in career development in many ways.

They can make suggestions and suggestions on your performance at work, and provide support for you when you need them.

They keep you happy at work and even improve your work efficiency.

In short, a good circle in your workplace will have a positive impact on your work.

It is a matter of serious consideration whether we should turn this tacit agreement into a deeper friendship when we meet our colleagues who are in the field. Trust is a prerequisite for consideration.

With the deepening of friendship, you will naturally pour out your true thoughts on your work, your superiors and other colleagues.

Then you have to hope that these ideas will not be revealed to your friends intentionally or unintentionally, but what you need is trust.

At the same time, if you listen to the same person, if you also cherish this friendship, you must maintain loyalty to your friends, because trust is only given to those who are worthy of trust.

Another important point is to prepare mentally for this friendship's fragility.

When the friendship in a working relationship goes wrong, the price you pay is directly proportional to the emotion you put in.

In the final analysis, work depends on people's economy. If a person is forced to choose between two sources of his or her own friendship, most people will choose to keep their jobs.

So when you decide to make a close friend in the workplace, you must be clear about it, or do it for two people, or be stabbed behind the back.

It is a very subtle interpersonal relationship in the workplace.

The phrase "relying on relationships" has led many people into the besieged city of customer relations.

People outside the city try to pull the "relationship" in order to start work. The people in the city are faced with the dilemma of being tied up by their relationship.

How can we keep the city open and free?

The first rule of establishing personal relations with customers is that they cannot be forced.

You can take the initiative to make the first step and send out the invitation to the party, but do not "frequent bombardment" to meet frequently. Letting nature take its course is the starting point for building a relationship.

Next, in the private relationship with customers, the most important thing is to maintain independence and objectivity.

Emotional input is easy to make people lose their objectivity, and it is easy for people to be constrained by relationships, resulting in a lot of awkward situations that you don't know how to say and how they refuse.

At the same time, too intimate personal relations will also damage the trust of both sides in the business field.

The boss and colleagues of the two sides will more or less think that you have sacrificed the interests of the company in the paction.

Therefore, although the personal relationship with customers can have a lot of positive impact on the work, if we can not grasp the yardstick consciously, it is better to keep distance in my opinion.

After all, good work results are the foundation of all workplace relationships.

In the seven habits of highly effective people, the relationship between workplace and interpersonal relationship is very much likened to emotional accounts. People's interactions are compared to deposits and withdrawals.

Try to save more friendship as much as possible. If you want to raise money, you must make it up as soon as possible.

The importance of balance is learned from the lesson of "blood" for those who have seen overdrawn bank accounts.

Judy Hoffman: the position of customer relations manager: I am willing to contact those intelligent, inspiring, hardworking and honest people in the work of Judy.

I will make friends with my competitors or clients. The only principle is "work first, friendship second".

The good part is that we can work together to share information resources in the corresponding work, and many problems that we can't think of and can't find the answers will be opened up in communication with them.

I have received many good advice from my competitors friends more than once.

But the disadvantage is that our topic can never be too open, especially when it comes to sensitive work information.

In any field, not only public relations, personal goals are developed, mature and ultimately successful.

If we reach some consensus by appreciating our competitors, this will give you a sense of work in the larger group rather than isolation from each other.

Because public relations itself is a service industry, it needs to have a good relationship with all customers.

If customers can regard you as a member of their team and work together towards the same goal, they will make cooperation more meaningful.

In many cases, once a client is established with respect and trust, the advantage is that cooperation is more successful. They will be more reasonable and satisfy your needs, and vice versa.

However, it requires more patience and understanding when working with some of the more difficult customers.

Under such circumstances, I try to stand in their shoes and understand their stress and disappointment.

I firmly believe that work is no more than a job. When we take off our uniform, everyone is equal and friendly.

The careless experience of making friends in the workplace will make us smarter in our career and personal life.

The sense of humor is the key word to resolve workplace conflicts.

It is too depressed and negative to make friends in the workplace.

To forgive one another's mistakes is to win more opportunities for yourself.

The topic can never be too open, especially when it comes to sensitive work or personal information.

Lisa company: Qingshan red leaf (Beijing) Technology Co., Ltd.: the general manager of the product department, the sales person, is usually not picky about people, because this occupation does not allow us to be critical of others. Our efforts are that we hope others will accept us and endorse us.

Of course, accepting, recognizing and making friends can be two different things.

Everyone has his characteristics and likes and dislikes. He is not a type of person. You can make friends or make friends. I believe there is a gas field between people and people. Some people are comfortable and pleasing to look at.

Because I am a salesperson, I can make friends with the sales in the company of my competitors, find more sales opportunities and career opportunities, improve vocational skills and expand customer base.

Some of these friends are familiar with the process of visiting customers, some of whom are met at some industry meetings, and some online dating channels related to sales careers.

It's hard to build a relationship, but losing a relationship is very easy, because we are too busy. The most important thing is always the task at hand. Every day we think about how to manage the current customer, and we can only take into account the relationships that we need to use recently.

For a long time, a lot of relationships are lost. When we use it, we want to pick up and work hard. We always give people the feeling that we don't need to face people behind us. But this is not what we would like to see.

Fortunately, I recently participated in a set of sales and customer care management methods set up by Dennis Wang, which can help salespeople manage their customers and maintain customer relationship.

According to the importance and relationship of customers, we divide them into four dimensions: "ambition is the best, go all the way, maintain low cost, and ensure that people are not cool."

The way to make friends is to unite more people, not to establish a small circle.

Keep secrets, whether you are yours or others.

There are no absolute bad guys in the workplace. Even bad people, he is willing to make friends with good people.

There is a sense of utilitarianism in making friends in the workplace.

Jonana HONEY: NBA Basketball Association's position: manager of market cooperation department, manager of the Department of market cooperation, she was aware that my company was recruiting. She sent her resume to me. Let me think about it. Those days, she suddenly became very nice to me. She called me "h o n e Y" or "swe e t e".

I can't bear being in a hurry.

How much value does such friendship have?

In the workplace, I like to communicate with people who are open-minded and fond of communication.

After graduating from school, work has become the main way to make friends. Some friends are phased, such as a certain period of time in a certain industry or company. After leaving work, there are fewer contacts and some are precipitated into regular friends.

But because of the festival of modern life